Young, committed and in a relationship.
Tuesday, February 10, 2015
We can not always handle everything life throws at us, that's why it can be nice to have someone along with you on your journey through life, that even means as you mature in your younger years (Let's say your twenties). For young couples in a relationship, Learning to be patient and change and grow with each other, can help them grow into respectable, carrying people. There are a lot of pros and cons to being in a serious committed relationship even in your early twenties.
Being patient is not something I am very good at. However since Cheyne and i have been dating I have improved a lot, I've been learning to be more patient especially since Cheyne's goal in life is to annoy me forever (Just kidding!!) I have found that as I am in a relationship I see things that annoy me, then I see them in myself, like I actually see myself doing those exact things! So I've learned to change them, you could say I am changing and becoming a better person just by being in such an amazing relationship.
Learning to be patient with your significant other can help your whole life in so many ways and it can also help you in your relationship. Even if you aren't together forever you will still have a huge impact on each others lives so try to make it the most positive impact you could make on them. A huge part about being patient is learning to compromise, you can’t always have instant gratification as we have all failed at remember at least once in our life times
When you are in a serious relationship with someone you always need to continue to think about the other person as well as your self. communication is key to having a good long lasting relationship.
Everyone must learn this skill because it can be very hard to have any kind of relationship without it. It is not always "Who wears the pants?" but what balance can be found between the two people who are hopefully both wearing pants... In a relationship you can not always get what you want and definitely not always when you want it, you have to be able to sit down and ask someone “What do you want?” without being upset when they do not say exactly what you wanted them to say.
It can be very difficult for some people to let things go any way but what they want. So sometimes the commitment helps them compromise with that other person. When you really feel a connection with someone it can help you think about what that person may want, it can help you because then you feel as though you do not just want to make yourself happy but you also want to make the other person happy.
Everyone has those days where you just want to lay in bed in your comfy duvet with delicious take out and skip work, school and all duties you committed to when you were in the mood to do things. . I feel as though we need stop procrastinating, stop changing our minds at the last second and learn to see things through. If you are committed to something them get off your lazy bum and do it. In relationships this is a huge problem especially when you think about the divorce rate lately. People take commitment very lightly. A commitment in a relationship is such an important thing, once you know someone is committed to you it can be so much easier to be your self around them and your relationship can grow even more. If you feel like the other person is not committed to you there is almost a trust that is broken. Commitment is something people really only think about when they are married or getting ready to be married, it should really be thought about before there is even thought about and engagement.
I have noticed that whenever someone thinks of “Young couples” it tends to have a very negative idea and feel surrounding it. The thing is young couples have just as much of a change of being together forever as they do of break up in a few days, months, or years. Every person is different.
Remember!! This is all based on my own experience with relationships and being young.
I love Cheyne and am very excited about spending the rest of my life with him.
Love You!
Chey.
